Have you ever held back from doing something that you knew that you knew, that you knew, you were supposed to do or say? Everyone has. Why? Excuses are plenty; real reasons harder to find. I suspect that the number one excuse is two-fold; part fear of rejection, part fear of finding your “knower” to be wrong.
Let’s park on that second excuse for a moment: Your knower. You know it don’t you? It’s that part of you which knows something to be true, yet you can’t explain the underlying logical, factual “why” behind the “what”. Some attribute it as intuition, or gut feeling (not to be confused with impulse). Whichever you call it, you have it and you probably use it often without consciously thinking about it, but on other occasions it tugs at you from within – practically trying to tear it-self from you, stare you down and force either action or verbalization of your excuse for inaction.
On to considering the fear of a “wrong knower”, if there is such a thing. Sounds oxymoronic, but assuming it’s possible, how valid of an excuse is it? What is the most probable outcome of listening to a wrong knower? Depends on what your knower is telling you to do, doesn’t it? In most of the instances I can think of where I’ve ignored my knower’s wishes, the outcome of following through to a bad end would have potentially ended in a bit of humiliation, but not much else. So the question I have to ask is why such aversion?
Sometimes even the smallest probability of a negative outcome drives us to the safety of inaction, or counter action.
Thinking about them in retrospect makes dissecting and concluding proper courses of action seem easy; we’re all good in the role of arm-chair quarter back. For me, the lyrics to a song come to mind as an example of times I’ve ignored my knower (instances of which are plenty) – “Say the words, say the words, say ‘I love you’.” It’s just a simple song about that most core human emotion and the three English words attached to it. Well, it’s more than that – it’s about acting on that core human emotion. Actions are the difference between thinking that we are, or stand for, a particular “thing” and becoming that which we say we stand for, believe or feel.
What your knower is telling you to do, though it may be different than verbalizing the above words, is still the urge to act on a core human emotion or instinct– the gut feeling (again, not an impulse). You’ve perceived something – maybe a need – in another person and you have an inkling to do or say something which would be of benefit but you stop short of action. You chose to ignore your knower.
So, what thing has your knower told you to do or say? Action is all that’s standing in the way!